Your book describes the ED as both a protector and a destroyer—how does that dual role trap people?
Let’s be clear. Dual role basically means an entity (in this case, an ED), performing two distinct functions. An ED does serve a dual role… for good or bad… it initially came about to protect us from the unpredictability of life, to give us something to control, when everything else felt out of control. It was, in a sense, saving us. However, within a short time, more than likely, this protector, morphed into a destroyer. We realised, quite quickly, that actually, we are not in control at all. The ED is in control. What needs to happen then, in recovery, is a realisation that whilst the ED was a protector of sorts initially, it actually turns out to be exactly the opposite. Fighting back against it, is about gaining the control back… perhaps for the first time in our lives. Recovery is about realising that we actually DON’T need protecting at all. Thank the ED for its role when it first entered our lives. But confirm…with confidence and assertiveness… that YOU’VE GOT THIS. You are wise enough, strong enough, brave enough, to handle life without its assistance – and in fact – without its dominance. The dual role can trap people, because that can actually be really confusing! It is a positive thing and a negative thing at the same time??
You must remind yourself…. It actually isn’t a positive thing AT ALL. AND you no longer need its protection, moving forward. Thank it, but leave it behind you, because you’ve got this. I am SURE you have learnt so much over the time that an ED was in your world. You’re not the same person you were in the beginning. Whether that was 10 years ago or 2 years ago, you’re different now, and you have to tell your F**k right off. Your future depends on it. Show your strength. Show your courage and show your ED that you don’t need its protection anymore. It will continue to destroy, if you don’t stand up and fight it. Period.
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