I think we all have a part of us that wants approval from others. Needing approval or needing to be liked by others is something we can all relate to. A while back however, I realised that if I really want to successful and happy in my life, and grow and become better, that I have to let go of that need. I struggle with it sometimes, and it can get me down if I don’t get the understanding or approval that I am looking for. But then I remember how far I have come, and I remember that the only way I was able to move forward in my life, was by only focusing on my own goals and growth journey.
I totally disregarded what other people thought about me. And let’s face it, I’ve had a fair few people in my life judge me and misunderstand me. And it does hurt. But what we all must do in this situation, is remember that the only thing that truly matters is what we think of ourselves. If we can be happy and proud of ourselves and do everything possible in our power to make our lives better and more fulfilling, then it really doesn’t matter if you are misunderstood or disliked by others.
I have had to be really cut-throat about it, and I have had to really rely on my inner-strength and resilience when I am up against a situation like this. If I continue to align with my values; be kind and also caring to those people in my life who mean something to me, then I can sleep soundly at night. If I try my absolute best to work towards my goals and dreams, and push myself outside of my comfort in my effort to grow and learn, then I can sleep soundly at night. I don’t spend time worrying about things that I cannot control.
If you at times, struggle with this issue of external approval from others, then I urge you to take a leaf out of my book. I am not saying that it is an easy thing to do, letting go of the need for approval, but it can and will change your life and your experience of life. It will make you more focused on the things that matter, it will make you more resilient and people will actually respect you when you simply don’t buy into others’ opinions and judgements, and then simply go about your day. But if by some chance they still misunderstand you or judge you, then you know the problem is with them, and not you. So let it run off you like water off a duck’s back.
When you look back at your life when you are on your death bed, what will be the things that really matter? Will you look back and be affected by those people who disagreed with you or disrespected you? And therefore, have regrets that you didn’t live life to the fullest because these petty judgments got you down? Or will you reflect on all the amazing things you were able to experience and achieve, because you were instead, focused on your own happiness, your own growth, and the sharing of wonderful experiences with those in your life that mattered.
At the end of the day, these latter things that I mentioned are what truly matter. I am not going to waste time getting caught up in what others think of me or my life. I will say it once more. You have to be cut-throat about this… The only things that matter are what you think of yourself, and whether you can be proud of yourself that you did your absolute best in life. Focus on your goals, focus on your growth, and also focus on those special people in your life who truly matter to you.
Let go of the weight of other people’s thoughts, judgements and opinions. You will feel free, and you will be free to live life your way.
Love Kate xxx
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