One of the key things that I have realised over the years that assists with my overall day-to-day happiness is the notion of letting go of the things I cannot control. Sometimes, although we may have many good things in our lives, we still seem to come up against roadblocks and things that we may struggle with. It is easy to get caught up on these roadblocks and struggles, but in order to remain at our most resilient, happy selves, we must learn to let go.
It is important to remember to be grateful for all the blessings we have in our lives. But we must also be grateful for the things that we struggle with. This is because without struggle, we cannot be strengthened. The reason I am so strong, and so resilient in my day to day life, is honestly because of the less than ideal things that I have had to endure over my lifetime.
We wish at times, that life could be perfect. But we must stop waiting for things to be perfect in an attempt to find happiness. If we keep waiting for things to be perfect before we are happy, we may never be happy. That is because life will never be perfect. We are all going through our own versions of struggle. We forget this because each person’s struggle will look much different than our own.
This is why it is so important to hold a sense of compassion. Compassion towards others and what they are going through, and compassion towards ourselves also. When we come up against a roadblock or something that challenges us, we need to remember to be kind to ourselves. Use words of encouragement in order to get through the tough times. Use words of encouragement to help us to find the lessons within that difficult experience.
How do we let go of the things we cannot control? We consciously have to make that choice and stick to it. Don’t allow yourself to ruminate and overthink everything that isn’t desirable. Ask yourself, is there anything I can do to help with this situation? If there is something you can do… do it!! Become empowered and make changes from a place of love. Sometimes though, we must accept that certain things may not ever change, and from that place of acceptance, we again become empowered and we feel at peace.
Why waste energy ruminating and battling with something that may never change? Think of the hours spent in agony, and discontent, when we sit and wallow in our undesirable circumstance. There is absolutely no point.
I have certain things in my life that I have needed to accept and come to terms with. And there are moments and days where I still battle with them. But the majority of the time I make the choice to let go. I just hand it over to the universe. I feel lighter, and I get on with my day, having the freedom to feel peace, joy and gratitude in every moment. You can do this too.
My life is not perfect. But I am happy. I am so incredibly grateful for all the blessings in my life, of which there are many. I see my difficulties as tools for personal growth and learning, and I am kind to myself when going through those difficulties. I make a point of always finding within myself, a place of empowerment and hope, rather than feeling like a victim and feeling hopeless.
So, if there is something in your world that upsets you, that you cannot change, empower yourself by letting it go! Feel the weight lifted. Enjoy the moment.
Love Kate xx
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