I have many tools in my toolbox when it comes to dealing with tough times.
Faith is exceedingly important. Faith is like a life-raft. Without it, it’s much more likely that you will drown in negativity. And drowning in negativity doesn’t help our cause at all. The best thing to do when you go through pain or loss, is to try and focus all your energy on the positive. Because positivity attracts more positivity.
Yes, it is important to let out your feelings, it is important to really feel your feelings. If your feelings are not acknowledged, they will pop up when you least expect it, or seep their way through to affect other parts of your life. But once you have truly felt your feelings, and been through the grieving process, I feel the absolute best thing to do is to pick yourself back up, feel into gratitude, and then surrender. Surrendering means letting go of stress and negative thoughts, and simply trusting in the bigger picture, and having faith that everything happens for a reason.
By surrendering, trusting, and having faith, this allows us to raise our vibration, and then it is much more likely we will start attracting new, positive things into our lives. Allowing us to move on. A great way of mastering this is to feel into what we want to be feeling, during meditation. Also, whilst meditating, try and breathe deeply, and consciously say to yourself… “I surrender to the universe” and “trust and have faith”. Say this as many times as you need to really get those positive vibes, and that feeling of release, and relief. You will feel lighter.
And then you can start identifying what emotions you would like to feel… and breathe and feel into these positive emotions. “I am happy”, “I am secure”, “I am loved”. You can also use some visualization here…simply visualize what you want your life to look like in the future and what you want to attract. This can be very powerful, especially if you do it every day.
The other important thing about taking time out to meditate and connect with your soul, is that it also helps us gain clarity around what we want and what we need. After surrendering, quieten your mind and see what comes up for you.
Remember, we are all human, and as humans, we are bound to experience tough times. But one thing is for sure, what doesn’t kill us, does make us stronger… what doesn’t kill us, will help us to grow. It is important to remind yourself of that fact, especially when you’re in the thick of painful emotions.
Things generally always work out for the best, but again, it can be hard to see this whilst grieving or feeling upset. When you’re in the thick of it, try and detach from your negative emotions slightly and try to see what it is you are learning in this experience. Essentially, we are all here to learn and grow…and some lessons are harder than others, but if we remember the bigger picture, then it makes the tough times much easier to swallow.
So, to summarize the points of importance in regard to getting through tough times:
- Feel your feelings, and grieve, then move on and focus on the positive
- Have faith
- Remember that everything happens for a reason, even if not apparent straight away
- Surrender to the universe… let go of heavy emotions and thoughts… raise your vibration
- Feel gratitude
- Trust in the bigger picture
- Try to detach from your negative emotions and see the lesson behind the experience
- Remember that what doesn’t kill us will make us stronger and help us to grow
- Meditate and connect with your soul to gain clarity
- Visualise what you want to attract and feel the emotions that you want to feel
Love Kate xx
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