Life doesn’t always go to plan. Life is totally unpredictable and if attempting to control the ups and downs of life I’m sure your attempts will be futile.
Did I expect to be back living with my folks at the age of 33 and a half? Most certainly not. 10 years ago, did I expect to be working in a field that I am passionate about and feel so incredibly blessed to be a part of? Not likely. Did I expect to be talking in front of rooms of people about mental health and did I expect to have written a memoir which may (if I’m lucky) end up being published by the mental health organization I work for? Not in the slightest.
Finally, did I expect to still be single at the age of 33 and a half? Nope.
I suppose what I am getting at is that although we cannot predict the way that life works out sometimes, we are always blessed. Things don’t have to look a certain way at any age. It is the way it is. If you judge yourself and your life based upon whether you do or don’t have certain boxes ticked, you are bound to feel defeated. If you take the good with the so-called bad; be grateful for all of it; and simply roll with the punches, it is much more likely that you will feel a sense of peace and happiness.
I could be really down about the fact I had to move back with my parents. But I am looking at it with non-judgement. I simply see this as another exciting, unpredictable chapter of my life. Who knows where the road will take me. Sure, I have many solid goals, and I will work towards achieving those goals… but if things don’t go to plan, that is totally ok. I think we need to trust that life will give us what we need when we need it. It may not necessarily give us everything we want at a certain point in time, and yes, it is positive to try to move towards getting those things that we want…. But don’t let your happiness depend on it.
I guess i’m trying to say is that at 33 if you are not married with two kids and a mortgage – that is OK! Happiness comes in many forms and in many disguises!
I think the key to happiness is acceptance of what is and gratitude for what is. Do not judge yourself or your situation and definitely do not compare yourself and your situation to others’. There is no yard stick for measuring success. For me, happiness = success. And I AM happy. So therefore, successful.
Where in your life are you battling with reality? Is there something in your life you don’t want to accept? I guarantee if you find acceptance and gratitude, you will feel a whole lot better, and more than that, you will feel a whole lot more empowered. Roll with the punches; stop trying to control or judge; and see your life (and your emotions) transform.
Love Kate
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