There is one fact I know to be true…. We all want to feel secure and safe in this world. We like to feel that we can predict that life will be a certain way in the future; and that certain situations, and certain people will always be present in your life in some form or another.
The reality is though, that things change all the time, people change, and circumstances change. This is inevitable; but this can leave us feeling very uneasy and may cause some anxiety.
I have recently been through an upheaval, lots of change in my life, perhaps some for good, and others not so much… but change none the less. And I have been trying to make peace with all those changes… and trying to make peace with the fact that my life doesn’t look at all like it did this time last year, or the year before that, or the year before that!
No doubt this time next year things will look different again. So, I think what we must do is embrace change and remember that it is simply the nature of the world we live in. Buddhists refer to this notion of impermanence as “non-attachment”. And I think we would all benefit from a little bit of this type of thinking. Non-attachment does not mean that we don’t care about a person/material possession/etc. It simply means that we are in a state of mind of being objective and that we don’t cling onto something with a desperation that it must never be lost.
We need to simply trust that the right people (and the right situations and resources) will be in your life at the right time… and when I look back… I see that this is 100% true. I am so very grateful for all the people that have passed in and out of my life, and I am so grateful for those people who are currently in my life. I have faith that things always unfold as they should, and that any fork in the road is not only necessary, but often a blessing in disguise.
When we think in this way, and accept life in this way, we sidestep unnecessary pain and suffering. Don’t get me wrong, grieving the loss of something or someone in your life is very important… and very healthy. Allow yourself to do this, and then move on in a way that is trusting of what will be, and grateful for what is.
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