I have recently found out that I have some people in the outskirts of my life that are being quite critical of myself and my life endeavors. And I am not talking about constructive criticism here, which can be useful… I mean awful, degrading comments are being made… and part of the problem here is stigma, I feel.
Criticism will always be there to some degree… It doesn’t matter who you are, and what you do, you will at some stage have to overcome criticism from others. Myself in particular should expect it from some, as I put my whole self and my whole experience of life, out there for everyone to see. I am transparent and I like being this way, but it can be difficult. I feel that it is a risk worth taking though, as the positives of sharing with others greatly outweigh the potential risk of being criticized.
It certainly does leave a bitter taste in your mouth though, knowing you have “enemies” in this world. But all you can really do is stand strong – in terms of the person you are and what you believe to be true. Integrity is important here. Also, know that harsh/unfair criticism indicates shortcomings in your critic rather in you.
We all make mistakes in life, we are not perfect because we are human. People that judge a whole book simply by seeing one chapter, are missing out on getting to know who people really are… and they certainly set themselves up, to look bad themselves. I know i would much prefer to be the person that is being criticized and standing in a position of integrity – rather than be the person who criticizes, standing in a position of disgrace.
I have made peace with criticism because it will always be there in the background of my life, I’m sure. We must make peace with it and remain detached from it (always take a step back from the situation) … rather than get upset or angry about it. This would simply bring you down to the level of those people who are doing the criticizing. Be the bigger person, always. Also, consider the source…. Do you really value this person’s opinion… is it worth worrying about?
The absolute most important thing, in regards to dealing with destructive criticism… is that you mustn’t become your own worst critic… you mustn’t take on what the others are saying… you must remember that unfair, harsh criticism can be simply insignificant in your world if you want it to be. You mustn’t give the criticism more energy than it deserves.
We cannot go through our lives trying to please everyone, because this would be utterly impossible. So, embrace the fact that there will be nay-Sayers out there. Just remain grounded and clear in your thinking… remain calm and if you must respond to the criticisms, do so in an assertive manner, do not criticize back, become defensive, or stoop down to their level.
One last note: if you believe in Karma, which i do… then find comfort that these destructive people will inevitably get dished up a plate of Karma soon enough!
Stay strong and don’t succumb the unfair opinions of others!
Love Kate xx
“We are all on separate journeys. We just need to stay in our own lanes. Trust in yourself, trust that you are doing the best you can, and never let another’s lack of security steal your own.”
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