Speaking from a place of authenticity opens the door to honest, authentic, friendships and relationships – and this is how I choose to live, every day.
So, the saying goes, “if you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” So, it is then, when you are truly authentic, you don’t have to think about what to say…it just comes out…as if from your soul, not your mind. It is this so called “soul speak” that gets me through the day without exerting too much effort… and this is how I choose to connect with others. The moment I try to put on a mask, or try and “be” a certain way… or fit a certain mold… this is also the moment when I get socially anxious or awkward. It is truly amazing the difference that authenticity makes in my life, on a day to day basis. I simply cannot be active in a friendship with someone, if I don’t show them the all of who I am. There is always a certain awkwardness whenever I try to have superficial interaction with someone…when there is a sense of ‘hiding’ the so called ‘imperfections’ that lie within me… but as soon as I allow myself to be free… to be honest…and real… there becomes a beautiful connection, and once there is a connection, you don’t have to worry about what to say or what not to say.
Authenticity truly starts in the heart. And again, this is why, when my heart is involved in my communication, my words flow and I could talk forever. When my heart is not engaged in a conversation, for instance, I have very little to say… I become pretty quiet. This kind of communication I tend to see as “ego speak”…. Where you are speaking from a place of ego.
Why am I telling you all of this? I suppose I am telling you this because it is itself, a way of communicating authentically with you. I am so open to building new friendships, based on the truth of who I am, and generally I find, that people appreciate the authenticity. An authentic conversation, feeds the soul, after all. I also urge others to relate in this way, to their social circle or networks. It is a way of enriching your life. I think people who only relate to people on a superficial level tend to be lonely… because it is to a degree… meaningless.
Yes, Authenticity takes courage, but often you don’t reap the rewards of something until you put in a little hard work. Hard work at first…. But then it becomes second nature… and this is a beautiful way to experience life… and the only way to experience relationships.
True, authentic relationships are in my mind, the most important thing – period.
So speak the truth – always.
They say we should care less about perfection – and more about authenticity …. However, I in fact believe that authentic people are uniquely perfect in their own special way.
Love Kate xxx
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